Benny Blanco Made a List of “All the Things I Want” in Future Wife Before Selena Gomez Relationship

Benny Blanco knew exactly what he was looking for before falling in love with Selena Gomez.

The couple, who got engaged in December last year, made a recent appearance on the On Purpose With Jay Shetty podcast, where they opened up about their relationship.

At one point, Blanco revealed that he actually made a list of “all the things I want” in his future partner with his therapist, prior to starting a romantic relationship with the “Lose You to Love Me” singer.

“Before I met her, I was a guy in L.A. trying to find the one for me and I was having some trouble,” the songwriter and record producer said. “I think I was maybe not looking in all the right places.”

Blanco continued, “I was like, OK, it’s time to be a grown-up, I want to start a life, I want to have a family, I want to find a person that is like my other half that makes me feel better and I make them feel better. It’s a give and take, the perfect yin and yang, so I wrote down a list.”

When host Jay Shetty asked him to detail the list, Blanco said the “first thing I wrote” was that my future wife has to be “age appropriate,” which was “30 plus” to him.

“The second thing I wrote was — I know this is so simple but so hard to come by — somebody who is kind, compassionate and caring,” he added. “I was like, ‘That’s really three-in-one but I need someone who is nice. A genuine nice person.'”

Gomez, who has been on a press tour with her fiancé for their new joint album, I Said I Love You First, has been open about their relationship since going public in December 2023, telling The Hollywood Reporter last year that this is the “safest I’ve ever felt in” in a relationship.

Last month, she also explained in an interview with Interview magazine why being “alone” for five years was needed before entering into a long-term romance with the record producer.

“I think that really helped me appreciate someone like Ben,” Gomez said at the time. “He gets so weirded out by me saying this, but genuinely, 10 years ago, I wasn’t in a space in my life where I could have accepted the kind of patience, the kind of unconditional love that he gives me.”