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He’s leaving: Will I survive?
DEAR CHERYL: I should be celebrating my 30th wedding anniversary in a few weeks, but four months ago, my husband Jack told me he wants to split. We have three children. The youngest is in his senior year of high school. I’ve been a stay-at-home …Read More
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Lawyer discovers he has married a ‘Fatal Attraction’
Many men think they’ve met, dated and even married the “Psycho B---- from Hell.” Christian really has. He met Alana through friends who thought they’d be a good match. He was 30 at the time; she was 25. He was a lawyer; she was a …Read More
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I’ve got ‘Fifty Shades’ of advice: Dump the drunken, low-life loser!
DEAR CHERYL: I’ve been in a relationship with a gentleman I love for more than 10 years. At the beginning of our friendship, he lived with a woman. He claimed it was just for convenience. He had a job, but the lady paid the bills …Read More
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Couple’s silence kills marriage
It seems the very least you owe your spouse, before you ask for a divorce, is the reason why you want it. Cal and Amy have been divorced for six years, and he still didn’t know why she wanted out. “I thought we were happily …
Stuck in loveless marriage, she needs to move on
Dear Cheryl: When we met in 1991, I was a little girl — 13 turning 14 — and he was 16 and on his way to the Marines. I truly loved him. He was my everything. By 2001, we had two kids and we were …
Work ‘friendship’ ends marriage
Barb had a feeling her husband Craig was having an affair with his boss, Maggie. But each time she asked, he denied it. Maggie was “just a friend.” “When you spend all your time with someone and have no time for your family, something’s going …
Readers share their ways to ditch the wedding rings
Readers had more to say on what happens when a marriage goes south. While you can always burn your wedding pictures, what do you do with your rings? Throw them? Sell them? Give them away?
Unfaithful husband questions marriage
DEAR CHERYL: My wife and I have been married for 14 years. She was pregnant, and I did what I believed was the right thing by marrying her. I don’t think I ever loved her the way she hoped. Three years ago, I had an …
Army wife discharges herself
Samantha knew her marriage to Ryan wasn’t working as soon as they got home from their honeymoon and he dropped her off to go to a Super Bowl party. He always chose the Army over her and their family. And then there was the time …
Creative ways to ditch that old wedding ring
The marriage is over; the divorce is final. There’s still one little thing to take care of — the wedding rings. DESIREE: After a long and difficult marriage to a controlling man ended, my friend wondered what to do with her wedding rings. Her newfound …
Cheater cheater, junky eater
You’ve heard it a million times. A couple gets married. She’s slim and lovely. Over the years, she gains weight. The husband cheats. Not this time. When Brian and Trish got married, Trish was “a beautiful, slender woman who took pride in her appearance.” But …
The heart knows what the heart wants — in due time
Sari and Kevin were engaged when she was “a very young 19.” “I truly loved him, but a few months prior to wedding, I got cold feet. I just thought I was too young. There was no one else involved.” They were living together at …
Wife won’t let go of her lover
DEAR CHERYL: In January, my wife bought a new iPhone. We downloaded an app that locates the phone if it gets lost. At the same time, she switched her workout location and began working out every night after work and on the weekends. One night …
Take this ring and shove it
Just because the marriage didn’t work out, does that mean a perfectly good ring has to wind up in the Chicago River? Sometimes, yes. JANE: I didn’t even wait till the divorce was final. I had left my lawyer’s office and was walking to the …
Back with guy she dreamed of since high school
Kelly reconnected with Marty, her old high school boyfriend whose role models appear to be Houdini and Peter Pan. He said he’d call, but he didn’t. Then at a barbecue, he stayed by her side all night. After the barbecue, Kelly didn’t hear from Marty …
Houdini meets Peter Pan, Peter Pan meets ...
Back in the day, Kelly had an on-again/off-again relationship with Marty, a guy she had a huge crush on. “We would go out a couple of times, and then he would turn his attention to someone else, leaving me devastated. This lasted for the last …
She helped her ex remarry
The world is divided into two kinds of people: those who cut off their exes like a gangrened limb and those who cherish them like extended family. Leader of the second kind is Bertie. Bertie met her husband Dylan through the Internet. They were both …
When the worst thing that happened becomes the best
Karen discovered her husband Tommy was cheating the old-fashioned way — through Facebook. She happened to be on his page and it was all there. When she confronted him, he told her the affair meant nothing. “It was just a fling, just sex.” “There were …
After 27 years, wife tells him: I’m gay
Talk about surprises. Halfway through their 28th year of marriage, Steve’s wife, Loren, announced she was gay. He says he was totally surprised. “She never had any gay friends,” he says. “Although, now that I look back, I guess there were signs. She’d always told …
Sex life with wife got better, but not for long
We heard from Almost Perfect seven months ago. He’d been married for 15 years. His loved his wife. They had two children. “We agree on most issues, have a beautiful home, good careers and a sound future plan. We enjoy each other’s company and laugh …
