When a meltdown starts, first take a deep breath to calm yourself. You need to be calm to calm your child. Then, get her attention by looking directly into her eyes. While using a calm, quiet voice acknowledge her feelings, "I know you are mad." Then tell her the behavior you expect of her, "I need you to stop crying." Meltdowns happen with all toddlers. Stand your ground. When you cave in to a meltdown, you teach your child that throwing a tantrum is an effective way to get what she wants. Sometimes when your child can't get self-control, you may have to leave the store and come back later. Do your best to ensure smoother shopping trips by planning wisely. Head to the store with a well-fed, well-rested child. Go right after naptime and after your child’s had a healthy snack.